The funny thing about love is that one day it’s here and the next day it might be gone. Love can come into your life when you least expect it, melt your heart like fire would ice. It can fill up all voids within you, send chills down your spine and intoxicate you with exhilaration and tranquility, until it becomes a part of you that you become fully dependent on it; until you are vulnerable and delicate enough to sway in whichever direction it leads you to.

But you see, just like everything else that fades away in life, Love too can perish away when you least expect, leaving you run down, shattered, thwarted and confused.

The past few months have proven to be the most strenuous months I’ve ever had to deal with. My relationship had all of a sudden decided to take a wrong turn and for that short period of time love neglected us both. We found ourselves thrown with tests after trials and every damn hindrance one could ever imagine.

Often when our relationships are faced with such setbacks, most of us pack our patience, pride and efforts and then hit the road because that is always the easiest way of dealing with things. We give up on each other and go looking for the next “perfect” partner only to find ourselves back at a point of disappointment. We realize after several failed relationships that a perfect partner does not exist, because each and every one of us in this world has their own imperfections and bad habits.

A part of me wanted to take the easy way out, quit and never look back. I tried to dismantle love and pull it out of me, I called it all sorts of names, assumed that love is cruel and it hurts until I learned that it is not love that hurts but our expectations of it that rips our little fragile hearts into pieces. Until I realized that every single relationship (no matter how much you love each other) has its ups and downs and that love only truly stays alive if both partners keep breathing life into it, for love too needs a little bit of fuel each time the fire burns out. I almost quit, until these two questions came to mind; What is love if it cannot withstand trials and turmoil? If it just ups and leaves the minute it is faced with tussles?

Just as I was still weighing my options, trying to figure out if he was worth fighting for or not, he took my hand and led me to the lounge, switched on his music and a house track called SEASONS by Lady X FT Afrikan Roots started playing. He glared deeply into my eyes, held both my hands and mimicked the chorus without moving his eyes away from me. It sang “no matter the day, no matter the time, it’s you, I will always choose you”.

I found myself profusely submerged and tantalized deeply into its lyrics; my body, mind and soul hypnotized and intoxicated as I got sucked deeply into its beautiful melody and instrumentals. Believe it or not, I literally felt my heart ponder with excitement and happiness and could feel my ‘almost-faded’ love get enlivened and revitalized again like it was brand new. Only God knows what followed after that!

This track has taught me that love may change like seasons, love may undergo all possible tornadoes and earthquakes, but if two people are willing to work together towards overcoming all hurdles then there is absolutely no challenge big enough to prosper, for it takes equal commitment and effort, it takes daily communication and compromises where necessary and a mutual understanding between both partners to keep their love fresh and alive. But most importantly, it takes you glaring deeply in each other’s eyes every single season and assuring each other that no matter the day, no matter the time, no matter the hardships and life’s temptations, you will always choose to love each other.

Make a decision to love abundantly for “Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get — only with what you are expecting to give — which is everything.”

Love is patient, love is kind.

It does not envy, it does not boast and it is not proud.

It does not dishonor others,

it is self-seeking,

it is not easily angered,

it keeps no records of wrongs.

Love does not delight in evil

but rejoices with the truths,

Always hopes, trusts and perseveres

~ Corinthians 13: 4-7


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